Finding the Truth

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I spent over seven years in an abusive relationship. Which is hard to say for a number of reasons. It’s incredibly hard to talk about abuse.
There’s the initial :
a.) you won’t be believed
b.) it’s traumatic and
c.) see reason b & a, but compounded.

It’s especially hard if you’ve spent your career as a powerful woman. How could I admit I let something terrible happen to me? How could I spend so long terrified for my own safety? And also — what about the times that were good?

Do I have anything useful to say here? Maybe…


Once you stop racing, what’s next?

My family often joked about race horses getting made into glue. I can’t remember how it started, or who said it first. Maybe it was my grandfather, or Uncle.

Maybe you’ve heard the saying. Race horses who can no longer race get made into glue.

Maybe it’s literal glue. Maybe it’s the symbolism. Something so fast, so strong, so powerful – at one point, potentially millions of dollars. Reduced to glue. A sticky substance that can be bought just about anywhere, for a very cheap price.

But the concept of racehorses, who upon their final race, became as worthless as…


After last week, there are many questions for Georgia. What will the state’s final numbers look like, post-recount? Will Georgia remain Blue? Why did Georgia turn Blue? What’s going to happen with the Senate run-off races? Will Georgia, then, remain Blue?

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Those of us paying attention & the democratic grass-roots organizations in the South are not surprised that Georgia flipped blue [even if it doesn’t stay blue, post-recount, but that likelihood is very slim.]

In what has seemed like a large sea of “red”, Georgia has fostered “blue” strongholds for years — with Atlanta and Savannah’s circles growing, growing, and popping off new little holdouts — Athens, Macon, Augusta. Do not forget that Jimmy Carter, was born here, in Plains, Georgia. Remember that we were the only Southern state to flip blue, for one of our own, in 1976. Sumter, Georgia…


Why “Privatize USPS” is not an option.

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“Privatizing USPS” could be a novel on it’s own, but here’s the spoiler alert : we already have two privatized shipping systems, and neither of them are practical for use for the average American sending packages or mail.

Why not? Because UPS & FedEx are privatized, they are optimizing for profitability. They have the luxury of capitalism dictating their decisions. One of those decisions for our privatized shipping options was to cut accessibility to every single address — it’s too expensive for everyone to receive mail.

USPS has not been given that luxury…


One of the biggest reasons for the vaping “epidemic” is the current illegality of cannabis in most of the United States [and beyond].

Vaping came to be primarily as a discrete manner to consume cannabis. Read that again. I’m saying that vaping exists solely because cannabis is a federally illegal substance, and there was a need in the market for discrete consumption. Yes, there is a medicinal place in the market for vaporizers. Are we there yet? No.

Here’s the thing — all of us, yes — I do mean all of us- all of us that work in the…


What happened to Zoom could have happened with any tech platform out there to date.

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What happened to Zoom primarily was exposed because of circumstance, not due to a significant failure on Zoom’s part.

If you missed it, and have been happily zoom-margarita chatting away, let me catch you up. The Verge breaks it down well, and here’s a full time-line of what went wrong.

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Well, of course, there were flaws on Zoom’s technology part. But there are always flaws on the technology part — I’m willing to bet that…


Georgia’s Historically Business-Friendly Stance puts it at Greater Risk

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Georgia is in a very complicated position. There’s a press conference scheduled for 5pm today [3/23/2020] — but at this time, Governor Kemp has “no plans to issue statewide mandatory business closures at this time.” For those watching in New York or California, this seems highly irresponsible.

But you have to think back to who Georgia is. For Georgia, controlling businesses is distinctly anti-state. This makes it very difficult for Kemp & local government leaders to enforce any type of business shutdown or closures. States like California, for instance, are employee-friendly…


What is your HR department doing wrong?

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I have spent most of my career on the hiring side of the table, but here is my most honest advice from both sides of the spectrum during the job application and hiring process.

Let’s start with compensation, since that’s what most people say they care about (in practice, I’ve found this to not be true, but I digress).

Payblocking

I have two very dear friends who happen to be sisters. Although genetically similar, in methodology they have proven to be distinctly different.

One of them, in a job interview, was asked how…


Trigger Warning : Suicide

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I’ve written five versions of this piece.

The first I wrote days after you left this world. Hurt, confused, ready to follow in your footsteps.

The second, and the third, I wrote trying to bring you some type of justice. To raise awareness, to call attention. They were both too pithy. Too filled with rage at everyone else that failed to notice the signs they were about to lose a friend. Too filled with rage at myself.

The fourth was pure grief. How sometimes I get so excited to show you something I’ve found before I…


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Learning the basics of computers changed how I viewed the world.

No, really.

They seem to like this magical thing that works somehow, and our media and cultural fears play highly on that magical feature, but when you break it down it’s really quite understandable and simple. Computers have a language, and there are rules to language. There are rules that computers [and technology] operate within, and that’s just that. If you take away the idea that it’s magic, and try to understand, it becomes simple.

Computers aren’t magic. They do not have personalities, and even though we as humans…

Darby Cox

Creative Entrepreneur.

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